Book Series Give Insight into Family Relationships, Conflicts

 August 14, 2020

Author: Li Weirong

Publishing House: East China Normal University Press

Publishing Time: February 2019


Many personal psychological problems have roots in the interaction between family members who are too close or too far away from each other. Their "dance steps" intertwine and collide, leading to a falling apart of the "family dance."

Li Weirong, a senior expert in family relationship research and therapy practice, unscrambles and explores the intricate relationships between family members in her Family Dance series.

Li, working with her 20-plus years of family therapy experience and the understanding gained from her professional life, sorts out family therapy cases in different periods and analyzes various patients' family relationships.

Li presents a number of vivid family therapy cases, giving readers insight into the complex and mysterious structure of the family. Meanwhile, she triggers readers' exploration and substantial perception of relationships through her reflections and observations of different people and the things around her.

"We often think that young people of today don't care about their families, but in clinical cases, the majority of children's problems result from focusing too much on their families," Li explained.

Li developed a home-based assessment of a child's physical and mental health that measures the children's physical responses while their parents are talking about issues on which they have failed to agree.

The assessment found no significant changes in the children's physical or mental responses when parents pointed out their behavioral problems; but when parents blame each other or fall silent, the children's physical reactions are obvious. The results showed that children's pressure did not come from parental discipline, but from the crisis in their parents' relationship.

Li also discovered that more than 90 percent of children's psychological problems are related to parent-child triangle relationships. When two people have problems, they will pull in an outsider to relieve the tension and pressure between them, which forms a triangle relationship. In a family, if the parents are not in harmony, the children are the most likely to get involved in their relationship.

According to Li, conflicts are integral parts of family life, not the causes of all kinds of family problems. And long-term shelved conflict is the real soil that incubates tragedies and physical and mental problems.

Many children will undoubtedly live better lives if the problems in their parents' marriage bonds are detected quickly and dealt with before they evolve to a serious situation.

Improving each family member's skills in communicating and resolving conflicts and problems can greatly increase the potential to untangle the family knot. Illustrating that process is one of the purposes of this book series. Many of the patients mentioned in the series improved after treatment, which can give us greater confidence in facing difficulties in life.


(Source: China Women's News/Translated and edited by Women of China)


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